New Year’s Resolutions – Swingers Edition

New Year's ResolutionsWell here we are again!  Another year has come and gone and it is time to follow that time honored tradition of self introspection and improvement….The New Year’s Resolution!  Generally speaking, the New Year’s Resolutions fall, for most people, into a few well worn categories.

I will exercise more…..

I will lose weight….

I will be a better husband, wife, parent, etc…

I will stop smoking, drinking, shooting heroin…

You get the idea.  Most of us at one time or another has made one of these generic resolutions.  Hell, you might have even followed through and became a better person for the effort.  I’m certainly not going to try and dissuade anyone from trying to improve them!  The purpose of this site, however, is to help Swingers, new and old, get the most enjoyment from the Lifestyle possible.  No matter how long a couple has been in the Lifestyle there is always room for improvement.  Perhaps a New Year’s Resolution is just what the doctor ordered to help us on our way to better, sexier, swinging in 2013! Continue reading

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The Truth About Jealousy and Swinging

Jealousy is an obvious issue that you and your partner need to address before you even begin swinging. Not dealing with this potential problem before hand will certainly come back to bite you in the rear in a very big way. If you are the jealous sort (particularly about sexual infidelity), you should stay away from swinging. The lifestyle really is not for everyone, and you should not feel ashamed or upset that you become jealous about the emotional and sexual ties to your spouse or committed partner. Continue reading

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Swinging and STDs: Having Fun While Playing Safe

Many people think that the most prominent negatives of swinging involve relationship and intimacy issues. For example, how do you get your spouse or partner into swinging? How can you get comfortable with a swinging partner or couple? How do you handle any potential jealousy? While these are all certainly things to consider before diving between the sheets as a swinger, there is definitely something else for which to look out when swinging. One of the biggest problems when it comes to swinging is actually a pretty basic issue with any type of open sexual lifestyle. Sexually transmitted diseases (also known as STDs) are always something to consider when having sex with a variety of partners rather than sticking to a purely monogamous sexual relationship. STDs are infections (both viral and bacterial) which you contract from having sexual contact with an infectious person. Intercourse is the most common way to develop these diseases, but other type of sexual contact can result in infection as well. There are large numbers of STDs in the world, but swinging tends to focus on a select variety. Here are the most common STDs associated with swinging:

Hepatitis B: a virus which attacks the liver and can cause lifelong infection, scarring (cirrhosis) of the liver, liver cancer, liver failure, and can even result in death in severe cases

Genital Herpes: the most common STD because it can be passed from one person to another through sexual without any kind of visible symptoms. It can also be retained by certain nerve cells in the body for life, causing the possibility of off and on symptoms in some people.

Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV): a virus which infects the immune system. It multiples by feeding on the cells of the immune system that are sent out to cleanse it from the body. For this reason it can completely destroy your immune system, leaving you open to common infections without any internal defenses. It can turn into Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS).

Human Papilloma Virus (HPV): one of the most common causes of STDs. Genital warts is the most frequent type of HPV which causes single or multiple bumps in or around the genital areas.

Chlamydia: a bacterial infection STD. If correctly diagnosed early, it is considered a curable STD but can result in penile discharge for men and infertility for women if not.

Gonorrhea: a bacteria which can infect the genital tract, rectum, and mouth in both men and women.

If you choose to swing, you certainly need to keep an eye out for these diseases. There are a few things you can do to keep you safer while swinging though.

      • Condoms, condoms, and more condoms!

      • Avoid dental flossing before oral sex as it can cut your skin and leave open wounds which can easily be infected

      • Do not be afraid to discriminate when choosing a swinging partner

      • Get vaccinated for Hepatitis A and Hepatitis B. Women now can also get vaccinated for HPV as well.

      • Get tested for STDs with regular frequency. Once a month is considered standard.

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