New Year’s Resolutions – Swingers Edition

New Year's ResolutionsWell here we are again!  Another year has come and gone and it is time to follow that time honored tradition of self introspection and improvement….The New Year’s Resolution!  Generally speaking, the New Year’s Resolutions fall, for most people, into a few well worn categories.

I will exercise more…..

I will lose weight….

I will be a better husband, wife, parent, etc…

I will stop smoking, drinking, shooting heroin…

You get the idea.  Most of us at one time or another has made one of these generic resolutions.  Hell, you might have even followed through and became a better person for the effort.  I’m certainly not going to try and dissuade anyone from trying to improve them!  The purpose of this site, however, is to help Swingers, new and old, get the most enjoyment from the Lifestyle possible.  No matter how long a couple has been in the Lifestyle there is always room for improvement.  Perhaps a New Year’s Resolution is just what the doctor ordered to help us on our way to better, sexier, swinging in 2013! Continue reading

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Swinging Vacations

Lifestyle Resorts have the best beaches.....

Lifestyle Resorts have the best beaches…..

One of the byproducts of being in the Lifestyle is you tend to look at “normal” outings in a different context.  I know that when Mrs. Toto and I are traveling, whether a vacation or just a weekend getaway, we tend to start sizing up the couples we encounter on our trips as       if they were potential swinger friends.  This is probably because most of the people we socialize with in our day to day activities are in the Lifestyle.  When 90% of your friendship base are swingers, it sometimes slips your mind that that is not the norm.  It is not that we can’t separate the two, it is just that we don’t always want too…

Face it, an adult vacation or weekend retreat is tailor made for Lifestyle activities.  You are out to relax…by definition, you don’t have the kids along…and there is something about a strange hotel room that brings out the horny in people! Continue reading

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Swingers and DRAMA…

Not a good sign….

Drama is a term thrown around quite a lot in the Lifestyle. Simply put, drama happens when people bring either their personal, or their relationship, issues into Lifestyle situations. It is my opinion that everyone and every couple have drama at one time or another. How people handle that drama goes a long way in ultimately determining how successful they will be in the Lifestyle. That being said, what do you do when the people you are with suddenly erupt at each other or worse yet, at you? Don’t assume just because you and your partner are on the same page that others you may be with are equally in tune. We have had situations go from, “Wow…we scored tonight!” to “Shit…I hope they don’t have a gun!” in the blink of an eye! Trust me when I tell you, there is nothing you can do to salvage that kind of situation. Continue reading

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