Swinger Couple Boundaries…What is Off Limits?

Sorry...I'm only allowed to look.

Sorry…I’m only allowed to look.

Every once in awhile we receive an email from a visitor asking our opinion on what is and is not okay for a couple in the Lifestyle to be doing.  While we certainly are always willing to help, these are particularly difficult questions to give advice on.  The following is an email we received recently and our response.

My husband and I have been entertaining the swing scene for about a year. Every time we meet an interesting couple, whether or not we bed them, my husband likes to develop a “textual” relationship with the other woman. Sharing detailed fantasies and pictures. I’m not completely innocent as I have one man (from the initial couple we played with) that I still text (my husband knows and does text the other woman sometimes). Occasionally sending a naughty pic. However, its nothing like what my husband wants to continue to do with many other women. Honestly, I don’t have the interest or time. Do you see any potential problems that could arise with him continuing this? Or is this normal behavior among swingers? I just don’t know what other people are doing.  Continue reading

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Swinger Vacations III – The Vanilla Vacation Hookup

 

Could we interest you in a drink?

Could we interest you in a drink?

Our last two articles on Lifestyle vacationing were written based on the assumption that you planned a vacation around Swinging  activities.  While that is a certainly a great way to plan a getaway, the fact remains, most of the time when a couple goes on vacation it is not necessarily with Swinging as the focal point.  We love to travel to California wine country and to the Caribbean among other places and typically not with a group of swingers.  So what does the average lifestyle couple do when they are out of their normal stomping grounds and decide they would like to get a little wild?  It can actually be pretty difficult to set up a last minute rendezvous in a strange city.  While most swinger websites have some sort of “Booty Call” feature which allow people looking for last minute hook ups to connect, there isn’t always a compatible couple available at your beck and call.  Your swinger site of choice may be regional in nature and not even have any members in the area you are traveling.  Does this mean you are completely out of luck?  Maybe not… Continue reading

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Is Being a Swinger Still Taboo?

secretSo at a party recently, after many a beverage was consumed, someone I’m talking to points toward another couple and said, “I think they’re swingers”. I looked at them and asked why they thought that. They shrugged and evaded a real answer. They danced around a word or two and then the conversation changed to a different topic. I later asked the person pointed to if they were swingers as someone claimed they were. Maybe I was just pushing an envelope or testing boundaries….but I was also curious to know the answer. As many more of a beverage had been consumed at that point, she just smiled, giggled and said, “I don’t know” all coyly and bashful and trotted off. Continue reading

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