Swingers and DRAMA…

Not a good sign….

Drama is a term thrown around quite a lot in the Lifestyle. Simply put, drama happens when people bring either their personal, or their relationship, issues into Lifestyle situations. It is my opinion that everyone and every couple have drama at one time or another. How people handle that drama goes a long way in ultimately determining how successful they will be in the Lifestyle. That being said, what do you do when the people you are with suddenly erupt at each other or worse yet, at you? Don’t assume just because you and your partner are on the same page that others you may be with are equally in tune. We have had situations go from, “Wow…we scored tonight!” to “Shit…I hope they don’t have a gun!” in the blink of an eye! Trust me when I tell you, there is nothing you can do to salvage that kind of situation. Continue reading

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Identifying Fellow Swingers

Swinging is normally at its best when it is played down. More experienced and mature swingers will freely admit to the perils of shouting your lifestyle preference from the rooftops. Like anything that is not widely accepted in the mainstream, swinging is treated with fear, suspicion, and even just sheer discomfort by the majority of individuals who have not truly looked into the idea. While swinging is certainly not for everyone, those who decide that it is the best personal choice for for them and their partner after a decent amount of research and self reflection normally are happier with their decision and within their life as a whole. Yet, that happiness normally only stays constant when the people involved in the lifestyle keep things on the down low.

This concept of keeping quiet about the lifestyle is not new and will probably be a around for a very long time—at least until the mainstream finally recognizes it as a separate lifestyle which is to be respected like the others. However, all swingers will start to notice that there are certain drawbacks which are associated with not sharing your joy. While keeping the lifestyle to yourself and only those who you have carefully arranged to swing with is truly necessary for the time being, being happy means that you want to share your happiness. The best way to do this is of course to reach out to friends and family. It becomes a problem when your current friends and family members do not truly understand or accept the lifestyle though. How can you reach out to share your enjoyment with others when you do not know who you will offend or you can trust? Continue reading

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Swingers and Friends

When it comes to swinging, there are several misconceptions in the public eye. These widely held assumptions might not seem like a big deal to many people who are new to swinging. I mean, they are not true so why would it matter? Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world and it matters a great deal more that it probably should.

The common misconceptions are basically what everyone outside of the lifestyle thinks it is. Most people tend to believe that the swinger lifestyle died out ages ago during the 1950s and 1960s with key parties and wife swapping rather than gotten stronger and simply pulled out of the mainstream. Many also think that swinging is degrading to women, indicates a toxic relationship, and can even be the reason behind so many failed marriages and committed relationships. Swingers who have just entered the lifestyle recently will probably know all about these incorrect assumptions if they chose to do their homework before diving into the swinging world. However, they might not know just how these misconceptions can lead to problems in their personal lives. Continue reading

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