One of the byproducts of being in the Lifestyle is you tend to look at “normal” outings in a different context. I know that when Mrs. Toto and I are traveling, whether a vacation or just a weekend getaway, we tend to start sizing up the couples we encounter on our trips as if they were potential swinger friends. This is probably because most of the people we socialize with in our day to day activities are in the Lifestyle. When 90% of your friendship base are swingers, it sometimes slips your mind that that is not the norm. It is not that we can’t separate the two, it is just that we don’t always want too…
Face it, an adult vacation or weekend retreat is tailor made for Lifestyle activities. You are out to relax…by definition, you don’t have the kids along…and there is something about a strange hotel room that brings out the horny in people! Continue reading →
Drama is a term thrown around quite a lot in the Lifestyle. Simply put, drama happens when people bring either their personal, or their relationship, issues into Lifestyle situations. It is my opinion that everyone and every couple have drama at one time or another. How people handle that drama goes a long way in ultimately determining how successful they will be in the Lifestyle. That being said, what do you do when the people you are with suddenly erupt at each other or worse yet, at you? Don’t assume just because you and your partner are on the same page that others you may be with are equally in tune. We have had situations go from, “Wow…we scored tonight!” to “Shit…I hope they don’t have a gun!” in the blink of an eye! Trust me when I tell you, there is nothing you can do to salvage that kind of situation. Continue reading →
When it comes to swinging, there are several misconceptions in the public eye. These widely held assumptions might not seem like a big deal to many people who are new to swinging. I mean, they are not true so why would it matter? Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world and it matters a great deal more that it probably should.
The common misconceptions are basically what everyone outside of the lifestyle thinks it is. Most people tend to believe that the swinger lifestyle died out ages ago during the 1950s and 1960s with key parties and wife swapping rather than gotten stronger and simply pulled out of the mainstream. Many also think that swinging is degrading to women, indicates a toxic relationship, and can even be the reason behind so many failed marriages and committed relationships. Swingers who have just entered the lifestyle recently will probably know all about these incorrect assumptions if they chose to do their homework before diving into the swinging world. However, they might not know just how these misconceptions can lead to problems in their personal lives. Continue reading →