What Swinging Is NOT

Since swinging is such a private lifestyle and tends to go against modern ideas of monogamy and marriage, people outside the lifestyle can get confused and jump to the wrong conclusions. If you are thinking about getting into swinging or if you just want to learn more about the lifestyle, you should begin looking into what swinging is NOT. As swinging is normally scoffed at by mainstream society, there are numerous misconceptions running around that many believe to be true. However, a great many of these lead to the discrediting of swinging and actually fall into the category of what swinging is not. Here are some often misunderstood ideas about swinging that are common myths circulated by those not affiliated with the lifestyle.

 

  • Swinging does not mean sleeping around with everyone you meet anytime you want.

Many people who start looking into swinging are doing so because their current relationship is on the rocks or their sexual relationship is floundering. Yet, swinging doesn’t mean that you are a single bachelor or bachelorette again. Swinging is still mostly designed and made for couples wanting to be adventurous with each other. The woman of the couple often gets asked to be alone with different men. Asking this is actually a quick way to get kicked off the list of potential partners for the couple. It is a privilege to be invited by the couple. Respect the relationship and the people in it.

  • Swingers are not automatically sex addicts.

Yes, swingers generally like sex and tend to be more adventurous in the bedroom than other couples. That does not mean that they absolutely need sex multiple times everyday or that they are looking for their next fix to get their groove on between the sheets. There are the occasional swingers who happen to be addicted, but as a general rule they are simply people wanting to heighten their fun in the bedroom and experience that increase in enjoyment with their significant other.

  • Just because a couple swings does not mean that they can’t be picky.

Once the common myth of swingers being sex addicts is dispelled, the fact that swingers can be picky about their partners is pretty straightforward and easy to understand. Many swingers are no more “easy” than your average single person. Some people think that simply because a man or woman happens to be a swinger that he or she will want to have sex with them and will be up for it at anytime. Still, if you did not know the person was a swinger but you knew they were married, you would treat them with respect. The same should be in place for swingers. They deserve the same kind of respect and kindly treatment as anyone else. It is through these means that you might be invited to join the couple.

  • Swingers are not all old, fat, and ugly.

Some think that a swinger is merely part of the lifestyle because they have gotten bored in their old age or are not attractive enough for an actual affair. There are all body types in the swinger community. You really can’t create a stereotype of what a swinger looks like. The majority of swingers fall between the ages of 25 and 40. There is a good mix of the general population—business professionals to parents and everything between.

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About andreamarc

Hi there. I'm Andrea Marc. My husband and I have been swinging for the past four years. It was definitely a learning experience at first, and I want to share the knowledge we acquired to help you make the decision to get into swinging or not in addition to all the extras involved if you decide that you do want to become a swinger. Swinging is a process, and you should not be afraid to back out if you find out that it is not for you.

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