Swingers Dictionary

Just like any group of individuals who come together in a common interest, swingers have developed their own unique, and sometimes quite amusing, vernacular.  Here for your information is a starter list of common words and phrases you may come across in your lifestyle travels.  Please feel free to expand on this list!

  1. AC/DC :  Bi-sexual, enjoys sex with either gender.
  2. B&D:  Bondage and Discipline.
  3. Back Door:  Refers to anal sex.
  4. BBW / BHM:  Big, Beautiful Woman / Big, Handsome Man, large to obese women and men.
  5. BDSM:  Short for “Bondage and Discipline, Sadism and Masochism.” A catch-all term for a broad array of sexual practices, especially involving restraint and inflicting pain.
  6. Bi-Curious:  Someone who has very little experience in same sex encounters, but is willing.
  7. Bi-Selective:  Someone who is very picky about same sex partners.
  8. Bi-Sexual:  See AC/DC.
  9. Booty Call:  Contacting someone for no other purpose than having a sexual encounter.  Some swinger sites have forums specifically for the purpose of stating your availability for sexual encounters at certain times.
  10. Can Entertain:  Someone who is willing to host others in their home.
  11. Can Travel:  Someone who is willing to travel to meet others.
  12. Cougar:  A woman who is interested in men at least eight years younger than herself.
  13. Cunnilingus:  Oral sex performed on a female.
  14. D&D Free:  Someone claiming to be free of disease or illegal drug use.
  15. DP or Double Penetration:  Two men penetrating one woman at the same time.  Usually in the vagina and anus.
  16. Drama:  Any disagreement, or argument between spouses or friends that affect others around them.  You will frequently see couples describe themselves as “drama free”.    In other words, keep your issues to yourselves!
  17. Fellatio:  Oral sex performed on a male.
  18. Group:  Sex involving three or more persons.
  19. GBM:  Gay Black Male.
  20. GWM:  Gay White Male.
  21. HWP:  Height – Weight Proportionate.  Someone who is neither over, nor under, weight for their height.
  22. Masochism:  The feeling of pleasure (sexual) from being hurt. The direct opposite of sadism where pleasure is caused from other people’s pain.
  23. MBC:  Married Black Couple.
  24. MBiC:  Married Bi Couple.
  25. MILF:  Mother I’d Like (to) Fuck.  Any woman with children that is physically attractive.
  26. Moresome:  Threesome, foursome…. Moresome.  Any sexual activity involving five or more people.
  27. MWC:  Married White Couple.
  28. Off / On Premise:  Indicates whether sexual activity is allowed to occur at a given location, usually a swingers club.  On premise clubs have rooms / areas where it is acceptable to engage in outright sexual activity.
  29. Orgy:  See Group / Moresome
  30. S&M:  Sadism – originates from the Marquis De Sad, a sexual torturer who was uncovered as having placed women in a dungeon and raped them while inflicting pain upon them. To be a sadist is to enjoy inflicting pain onto others in a sexual way.Masochism – to enjoy being on the receiving end of sadism.
  31. SBF/SBM/SWM/SWF:  Single Black Female, Single Black Male, Single White Male, Single White Female.
  32. SBiF/SBiM:  Single Bi Female, Single Bi Male.
  33. Straight/Str8/Str:  Heterosexual.
  34. Vanilla:  Refers to people not in the lifestyle.  When my wife and I first got into the lifestyle we were invited to a couple’s house we had recently met.  They told us that it was a vanilla party which offended my wife because she couldn’t understand why they only invited white people to their party.

So the next time someone posts a booty call that reads: “HWP MWC with Bi-Selective MILF female seeks the same for BDSM fun in local On-Premise club.  Likes also include DP and Moresomes.  No Drama and vanillas need not apply!” … you will know what you are getting yourself into.

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