Swingers and Friends

When it comes to swinging, there are several misconceptions in the public eye. These widely held assumptions might not seem like a big deal to many people who are new to swinging. I mean, they are not true so why would it matter? Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world and it matters a great deal more that it probably should.

The common misconceptions are basically what everyone outside of the lifestyle thinks it is. Most people tend to believe that the swinger lifestyle died out ages ago during the 1950s and 1960s with key parties and wife swapping rather than gotten stronger and simply pulled out of the mainstream. Many also think that swinging is degrading to women, indicates a toxic relationship, and can even be the reason behind so many failed marriages and committed relationships. Swingers who have just entered the lifestyle recently will probably know all about these incorrect assumptions if they chose to do their homework before diving into the swinging world. However, they might not know just how these misconceptions can lead to problems in their personal lives.

Eventually, you will probably meet someone who is strongly anti-swinger. The topic might come up randomly or you might simply get it out in the open that you and your committed partner are swingers. The debate which will follow probably get very heated on both sides until one of you decides to break it off for the sake of keeping the peace. Most experienced swingers have run into this issue on occasion and newer swingers who investigated the lifestyle before committing know that it is inevitable. The real problem that swingers tend to ignore is what happens when it is a friend on the other side of the debate over the swinging lifestyle. How do you respond to someone you consider to be an important part of your personal life who suddenly becomes angry or maybe even slightly freaked out with you for the lifestyle choice that you and your partner have made?

The only way to truly address this potential issue is to not let the situation happen in the first place. They are your friends, and that fact means you genuinely want to share aspects of your life with them—especially when something good happens such as a positive swinging experience. However, when it comes to the lifestyle, things can get tricky. You might frequently converse with your close friends about special sensual experiences with your partner, but since swinging is still viewed as something “other” and something that is considered to be “wrong” in the mainstream, it is really best to keep it to yourself. If you find that not speaking to any of your friends about your swinging persuasion is becoming heavy on your mind, it would even be best to have some swinging friends. Make friends within the lifestyle who you can talk to about these things, knowing that they will not judge you like others probably will.

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