So…. How Do We Get Started Swinging?

Setting up their profile..

So you have had all the discussions, laid out the ground rules, and had some awesome sex while talking through your swinging fantasies. What is the next step? How do you actually get out there and meet other swingers? Thankfully we have the internet and its vast resources to help us on our quest to find the most compatible swinger prospects. There are many websites out there which the aspiring swinger can use to narrow their search and get the “lay” of the land.

You can always jump on your local Craigslist site and look under the casual encounters category. Personally I like a little more information about potential “friends” than Craigslist ads typically provide. There are many swinger sites that cater specifically to the lifestyle crowd. We have a list of some of the more popular ones here.

These sites vary greatly in their layout. Some are very graphic, while others are tamer. It is up to everyone’s individual tastes to choose the site best suited to you. I recommend getting a new email address at somewhere like yahoo or hotmail. Some of these sites can pound your email box pretty good. Before you start signing up you need to come up with a catchy screen name. It may sound silly, but if you end up enjoying the lifestyle and sticking around awhile, you will be amazed at how couples tend to refer to each other by screen name. Most people don’t put their names on their profiles anyway so your screen name becomes your identity by default. Would you rather be known as “DallasHotCpl” or “Anallickers”? Your choice… just be aware that it might stick.

The next step is to sign up for a few free trial memberships and start poking around. Every site I have ever seen allows you to set up a free profile. The amount of features available to free members varies greatly however. Usually you will have to set up a profile before you are allowed to start browsing other members. You will need your screen name, a password, and some basic information such as age, weight, sexual orientation, so forth and so on. You will also likely be asked to provide a short essay type response to a few questions. Describe yourself. Describe what you are looking for in others. What are some of your fantasies? These may seem like a pain, but taking the time to fill them out honestly and with a little depth will pay off later. Write them out once in Word and then copy and paste. If you run into a website that doesn’t allow you to right click, ctrl V usually works to paste your copied text. Here is our description of ourselves:

Attractiveness based on your alcohol intake with great outlook on life. Fun and easy to get along with. Into all outdoor activities and most indoor ones too! We’re fun-loving and enjoy laughing~~most often at each other! We are into each other big time and enjoy being around others that have the same energy between them. He is soft spoken with a dry sense of humor and great heart. She is not as soft spoken but definitely is a good listener and loves to laugh. She also loves hot-women……not the Barbie type….but those that are sweet, down to earth and enjoy a good sense of self-confidence. G/G play is not required (hell, NOTHING is required) and we respect boundaries. Above all, we’re very relaxed and easy going…and we prefer the same in those we roll wit. (Did that sound cool? Ok, maybe not….but you got the point)

After you are finished with the question and answer part you will be given the opportunity to upload some pictures. I understand that you might be hesitant to do so, but trust me when I say you probably will not be taken seriously without at least one picture. If you don’t want to show your face, fine. You will get a better response if you do though. Most sites allow you to put up private pictures that can only be accessed by people you specifically give permission too.

There you have it! You are now a part of the swinging community! Start browsing some profiles and see who is out there. Most sites have some form of validation system so that you can see which profiles are “certified” as real swingers. Keep in mind that some swinger websites are regional in scope. If you don’t see a large community in your area, try a different site, or ask someone who is local for a recommendation.

Next post we will delve into swinger etiquette. Yes there are rules you are expected to know, but don’t worry, most are common sense.

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