Identifying Fellow Swingers

Swinging is normally at its best when it is played down. More experienced and mature swingers will freely admit to the perils of shouting your lifestyle preference from the rooftops. Like anything that is not widely accepted in the mainstream, swinging is treated with fear, suspicion, and even just sheer discomfort by the majority of individuals who have not truly looked into the idea. While swinging is certainly not for everyone, those who decide that it is the best personal choice for for them and their partner after a decent amount of research and self reflection normally are happier with their decision and within their life as a whole. Yet, that happiness normally only stays constant when the people involved in the lifestyle keep things on the down low.

This concept of keeping quiet about the lifestyle is not new and will probably be a around for a very long time—at least until the mainstream finally recognizes it as a separate lifestyle which is to be respected like the others. However, all swingers will start to notice that there are certain drawbacks which are associated with not sharing your joy. While keeping the lifestyle to yourself and only those who you have carefully arranged to swing with is truly necessary for the time being, being happy means that you want to share your happiness. The best way to do this is of course to reach out to friends and family. It becomes a problem when your current friends and family members do not truly understand or accept the lifestyle though. How can you reach out to share your enjoyment with others when you do not know who you will offend or you can trust?

Finding other swingers is the only sure fire way to share your joy and happiness while keeping your personal public life in order. The act of discovering other swingers can be a bit difficult though. How can you be sure if the other person or couple is a swinger or not? There are of course a few ways to narrow the possibilities of swingers and non-swingers in order to be certain.

If you happen to be talking to a person who you suspect to be a swinger, you should keep talking. Bring up topics casually. You will find that whenever you actually do mention swinging if the people are swingers they will generally have a strong reaction to the subject being brought up. If they do not want to be found out, they will often start to fidget and act slightly uncomfortable. Others may try to open up and want to discuss it further. If you find the person getting uncomfortable though, then go ahead and drop the subject. Chances are high that they are not going to tell you if they are.

Couples who are swingers can be easier to identify through observation though. Watch how they look at other couples and even individuals. If they both look at others the way a single person would, they are probably swingers.

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