Choosing the Right Partner for Swinging

So you’ve decided that you and your partner or spouse want to get into swinging. What next? The first step you need to take after investigating the lifestyle and if your relationship is a suitable match for it is in finding the right partner. The right partner or right partner couple can really make or break your foray into swinging during your first few months in the lifestyle. Still, finding the right partner can be a bit of a challenge. In fact, it is just as difficult as finding the right partner if your were single. The difficulty level even increases when you consider the tastes and preferences of your own spouse or committed partner in addition to the social pitfalls with admitting your swinging lifestyle to another person. Despite these potential challenges, it can be very rewarding when you find a nice fit for your particular relationship and views on sex in general. The best way to keep the bad experiences and wrong choices to a minimum is to follow these simple steps to finding the right fit for your swinging needs.

1.) When meeting a potential partner for the first time, try to keep sex off the table.

The first meeting should be more like an interview or first date to determine if you would be a good fit together. It will save time and grief later to assess the person before jumping in the sack.

2.) Do not judge a book by its cover.

Immediately crossing someone off due to a first glance or a few bad pictures on their profile might not be the best strategy for finding a good partner. Also, there are a large majority of swingers (mostly those new to the lifestyle) who are actually quite shy. Unless your first meeting is a complete disaster, you might want to go through a second meeting just to be certain.

3.) Do not rule out swingers based on age either.

Simply because there is an age difference does not mean that someone might not be the right fit. Younger couples are often discriminated against because established swingers might not take them seriously. Older couples can face similar problems as people think they are over the hill or out of touch with the modern swinging scene. A good partner can be found anywhere and in any person. Keep an open mind.

4.) Make sure that potential partners are prepared to take safe sex precautions.

No amount of fun between the sheets is worth being ill for the rest of your life or even the possibility of dying. Good swingers know that safe sex is vital to a healthy and enjoyable swinging lifestyle. Some people that you meet might not feel this way, and if you plan on swinging in the long term or care about your overall health, you need to make sure any potential partners are supportive of safe sex. Those who are unwilling need to be crossed off your list as interaction with them can hurt you later—even in the swinging community.

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About andreamarc

Hi there. I'm Andrea Marc. My husband and I have been swinging for the past four years. It was definitely a learning experience at first, and I want to share the knowledge we acquired to help you make the decision to get into swinging or not in addition to all the extras involved if you decide that you do want to become a swinger. Swinging is a process, and you should not be afraid to back out if you find out that it is not for you.

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